Having a bad day?  Look around you – there’s always someone worse off..

Having a bad day? Look around you – there’s always someone worse off..

The point is – ANYONE can have “one of those days” and anything from a minor setback to something major can trigger off negative thoughts and emotions. The trick is to find a way of reversing negative energy into a positive energy that will empower you and help you get back on track to thinking positively.

Taking responsibility

Personally – for me it’s easier to reverse my negative energy when I accept the role I play. To reverse negative energy we need to take control over our own mood, energy and perspective. Figuring out the why and what we’re getting out of allowing a negative thought or a situation control our thinking is what is going to drive a change to positive energy. So learning how to identify when it’s time to persist and when it’s time to let go is crucial to the wellbeing of my mind and overall outlook on life.

At the end of the day – it’s my decision on what I allow control my thoughts and how it makes me feel.

Letting go of the need to change situations

In many instances we get bogged down with situations that we cannot change or are outside of our control. Learning to accept that things and people change and that nothing stays the same is a start. The world is constantly changing and we are part of that change so it’s ok to let go of situations that are not improving, changing or causing us stress and accepting that we cannot change the situation.

Acknowledgment and acceptance is a choice that only we can make at any given situation of our lives and is a helpful tool in accepting change and taking back control.

Acceptance has many benefits:

• A more positive attitude
• Less worry and stress
• Less energy used from trying to solve the issue
• Ability to embrace change
• Greater appreciation and gratitude
• A more compassionate outlook

Taking control

Remember sometimes we have to move on to move forward. We don’t have to accept every situation or anyone that brings negativity into our lives. We have the power and the choice to take control and remove ourselves from a situation that is not beneficial to us or hurtful – that can be an extremely healthy and productive option.

Focus on the positives

The fact is life is full of ups and downs and it’s our choice what we focus on. It’s the way we stand in the face of adversity and how we handle our problems that determines the quality of life we choose to live.
If we spend most of our time talking about the chaos in the world, the bills we have to pay and any number of possible problems we have, we will naturally feel down and depleted. But if we choose to take notice what’s going well in our life, and be grateful for what we have, we will feel uplifted and energized.
One of life’s greatest gifts is the lesson’s we learn from our life’s teachings. Indentifying that we build invaluable strength from our life’s difficulties enables us to successfully fulfil our deepest most meaningful purpose and we can truly begin to make a difference not only in our own lives but also to the lives of those around us.

The moral to my story

Yes – it happens to the best of us – and yesterday, it was my turn – I had “one of those days” – nothing was going to plan and everything went “pearshape”. My week up to that point was flawed with small challenges and it was quite easy to fall into a negative mindset and feeling like the world was against me.  However it wasn’t until the end of the week when I was informed of the death of a close family friend that once again I chastised and reminded myself that there is ALWAYS someone worse off than me and YES I am extremely lucky right now with everything I have in my life that enables me to live a healthy, happy and fulfilling life.


Helen – Love Life – LIVE!!! Xxx

Helen Simpson is the owner operator of Body & Soul Women’s Wellness. She is a fully qualified Level 1 & Level 2 Wellness Counsellor, a fully qualified Personal Trainer (Australian Institute of Personal Trainers), Certified MenoFit Instructor (specializing in fitness for women over 40+), Certified PunchFit Instructor, Certified Core Yoga Instructor and Certified MetaFit Instructor.
Contact: – 0422 310 744



“Imagine how your life can change – set your vision, your goals, find your strengths and make it happen!!”

The truth is that in today’s society where we are bombarded with facts on what’s good for you, and what’s not, learning to change your own behavior is one of the hardest things to do.

Many of us would like to change something in our lives. Whether it’s improvements in eating habits, weight control, fitness levels, stress management or other behaviors – we know what to do – but we often get stuck in procrastination.

Take loosing weight for instance. We know we should eat less, make healthier food choices, and exercise more so what do we do? Take the quickest and easiest way out! Go on a crash diet – starve ourselves and before we know it – we’re feeling lethargic, deprived of energy, experience rapid unhealthy weight loss that equally returns as quickly as we’ve lost it. So, once again we feel like we’ve failed – we’re disheartened and our lack of belief in our ability to take control of the issues – only worsens.

So we get stuck in a vicious cycle – we respond with self-defeating thoughts and behaviors and find ourselves making excuses as to why it didn’t, couldn’t or wouldn’t happen. The fact is many of us find ourselves, “getting in our OWN way of CHANGE – unfortunately some of us stay there whilst others decide to stop self-sabotaging their lives and begin to take control.

In many instances – self-confidence is a huge obstacle. Not feeling worthy, not trusting ourselves, negative thinking – all play a part in “self-sabotaging” and often limits our ability to focus on the strengths that we possess that enable us to bring about positive change in our life.

So how do we stop “Self-sabotaging” and begin to change our behavior so that we can start getting the results that we want?

The secret to change is learning to develop a positive mindset. We all have the power to change what’s going on in our lives by the way that we perceive things. Getting out of our OWN way and starting a more positive inner dialogue is hard, but fundamental if we want to create a more fulfilled and meaningful life.  Our thoughts are our own so only we can change them.   It is up to us to examine our negative self-talk, to take responsibility for it and ultimately to make the conscious choices that can lead to a more positive direction. Learn to feed your mind with the mind-set you want. Every time you feed yourself a positive mind-set you weaken your negativity.

If we consciously decide to develop a positive mind-set, empowered by positive thinking, we put ourselves in the correct frame of mind to propel ourselves into proper action. We can then begin to focus and target the areas in which we most wish to bring about lasting change.

This is the essence of personal power: choice and responsibility. START TODAY!! Make a commitment to yourself to take small actions that will reinforce your new mind-set and empower you to make positive changes in your life.

 Change your mindset – change your world!

Helen ^


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